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in all the highs and lows – God is still GOD

May 26, 2009

this last weekend was quite a trip. not only meaning the trip we took to portland for four days – but the trip our emotions went on as we learned that two amazing men of God went Home.

saturday morning i woke to brent telling me that jenni clayville, with whom we were staying with, had just learned her best friends husband had died in a plane crash in the middle of the night. scott resnick was piloting a plane to a funeral in arizona. we knew there was one other passenger but had no details at the time.

later on that night i get a facebook message from my friend deborah asking if the other passenger was daylon harrington. i wasnt sure, so i couldnt say. after a little investigation i found that it was indeed daylon. a young man, 25, who lived here in southern oregon and was the best friend of a gentleman in our church, tobin, who learned of his death via twitter.

the more the story got out, the more we learned what an impact these two men had on people and how many actually knew them. quickly we all became very connected to this tragic accident.

all this tragedy leaves me with one overwhelming thought.

live your day wisely, purposefully and with passion.

are you having marital problems? use this day to reconcile them. why? because you have this day to do so.

is their a wrong you need to right? do that today. why? because you can!

is there something you need to confess to a loved one that youve been putting off even though you know it will be the best thing to do? then do it. stop delaying. please.

look. i am the queen of procrastination. im speaking to me more than anyone else. but i dont have the promise of tomorrow here on this earth. i have this very second. that is my guarantee. im sick to my stomach thinking of all the seconds i have wasted.

the lives of these two men…more over, the loss of these two men, have put many things into perspective for me. its unfortuante that in death we become so aware of what should be so obvious.




Live and Love – NOW.

to learn more about scott and holly resnick go here.

for more info on daylon harrington, go here.

32 Comments leave one →
  1. tobinshack permalink
    May 26, 2009 1:02 pm


    • May 26, 2009 5:52 pm

      let us know if we can do anything for you. k?

      unfortunately we cant make daylons service on saturday.

  2. May 26, 2009 1:02 pm

    well said tam, well said.

  3. May 26, 2009 1:04 pm

    Thank you for this post… As painful as all of it is, this topic is one that we really do need to think about. 25 years is YOUNG, but we are never guaranteed a tomorrow. Never. We shouldn’t take those for granted…
    Thank you.
    Love you.

    • May 26, 2009 5:51 pm

      i love you too.

      i see a song in here somewhere, mandy pants.

  4. May 26, 2009 1:05 pm

    I am SO glad you were here with me this weekend. You were a pillar of strength for me.

    You’re so right… every day is a gift we’ve been given and we need to make the most of it.

    I already miss you.

    • May 26, 2009 5:50 pm

      i miss you too…

      im glad we were there through this. wish we couldve stayed longer.

  5. Heidi permalink
    May 26, 2009 1:08 pm

    Today, when I pick up my kids from school, I’ll squeeze a lil harder.

    Thank you

    Loving you (praying)

  6. Nicole Wick permalink
    May 26, 2009 1:10 pm

    What a great message. I’ve been reading tweets from you all this weekend and have felt the love and grief in them. Very touching. Will be praying for grace, peace, and healing for all of you. I’m thrilled to learn that, while these deaths are tragic, these men lived well, loved much, and left a lasting, impactful legacy. Thanks for your post.

    • May 26, 2009 5:49 pm

      im glad youre praying. i know we all are. i find my prayers focusing much on holly, scotts wife. ive been trying to imagine (although i truly cant) how i would feel and respond if it were me. i just have no words. my heart breaks for her.

  7. May 26, 2009 1:11 pm

    amen, sister. i am so glad you were here, too. i think it is by divine appointment that we all were here. you’re so right about the perspective thing… like, in bigger ways than i can even imagine. i am thankful that God teaches us, even through the hardest of times. yep. love you long time.

    • May 26, 2009 5:47 pm

      im glad we were all there too! God knew what He was doing. He’s all smart like that.

  8. May 26, 2009 1:13 pm

    the world really does keep getting smaller and smaller.

    how incredibly amazing to find out you guys are even moreso tied through connections. and to see jenni’s blog linked to on a local news website is also oddly amazing. to think that even if you guys had never met, there was still that “6 degrees of seperation.”

    there is only one thing that I always come back to when I think of what I should do that is left undone, and “buts” and “what ifs” always hold me back. *sigh*

    good post tam.

  9. May 26, 2009 1:13 pm

    I echo Crystals “divine appointment” comment as well. 😉

  10. May 26, 2009 1:36 pm

    these are the times i dont want the impact to wear off. you know how youd go to camp and be all pumped and warm fuzzied to death and in two weeks youd be back to the pain in the butt you always were? yah…dont want that to happen here.

    there are too many lessons and realities that need to be realized and practiced daily.

    how can we help each other stay mindful of these things?

    • May 26, 2009 5:28 pm

      This is why God designed church community, family – home groups, fellowships…for real relationships, accountability, love-in-action…so we do stay mindful of these things, of our friends.

      I like how easily love can spread further and further through as the world gets smaller and smaller. For me, this is one of the “greater things” Jesus spoke of – using technology to make the world tiny so His love just gets even bigger. Love conquering all.

      And it’s not just lip-service. We all know that.

      • May 26, 2009 5:36 pm

        youre right.

        this community we have on line is beyond tremendous at accountability. AND encouragement, love and support.

        the big ole world wide web infused with God and His church. it is so beautiful!

  11. Heidi permalink
    May 26, 2009 1:37 pm

    Yes… Divine appointment

  12. May 26, 2009 1:59 pm

    It is truly amazing the number of people God surrounded the Clayville’s with this weekend and I, too, believe it was not by accident.

    I have been feeling very sorry for myself over my job loss and the events of the weekend have been a reminder to me that the things of this life are fleeting and we must keep an eternal perspective. We are here but for a moment – we must make them count.

    • May 26, 2009 5:44 pm

      it was so nice to meet you and your lovely bride on sunday!

      “We are here but for a moment – we must make them count.”

      amen and amen!

  13. May 26, 2009 2:58 pm

    why is it so hard for me to do all of the things you mentioned?
    thanks for this, tam.

  14. May 26, 2009 3:05 pm

    i just visited the sites you linked, and i am weeping for these families. i could never be that strong. thanks for sharing this story. i am so grateful for the time i have here and with my husband.

    • May 26, 2009 5:45 pm

      i know. its hard to read about.

      im just trying to soak in every moment…

  15. lazrus2 permalink
    May 26, 2009 8:56 pm

    I definitely agree with your insights and recommendations here! I do believe ‘comforting one another with the comfort we have received’ (2 Cor. 1:4)means bearing one another’s burdens by sharing in their grief with them. Yet, how easy it is to quickly ‘disconnect’ when we’re away from the situation and back in ‘our own element’ again ={. We can be ‘back there’ in an instant though through prayer. I read a quote from Mother Teresa yesterday: “it is very important for us to realize that love, to be true, has to hurt.”

    I don’t know if you’ve heard, but even if so, any of your readers who know ‘godsgal’ (Deborah Hannaford) might want to be lifting her and her family up now also.
    We got this prayer request 2 days ago:
    Deborah Hannaford’s Mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer, yesterday. The latest update that I rec’d was that the cancer was throughout her internal organs and that they were not going to treat her but possibly put her on hospice and keep her comfortable. Pls keep both Deb’s Mom and family in your prayers. I am sure that Deb will update us with details as she gets them.


  16. May 26, 2009 11:40 pm

    It’s of next to no consolation for those who are left behind in a cloud of depression and uncertainty… but even so , i read this just today:

    1 The righteous perisheth, and no man layeth it to heart: and merciful men are taken away, none considering that the righteous is taken away from the evil to come.
    2 He shall enter into peace: they shall rest in their beds, each one walking in his uprightness.

    Isaiah 57:1,2

    As you say – there is NO guarantee the righteous will remain on the earth with their entire family, for we are here but a little while compared to where we shall reside forever with the Truly Righteous.

    He can save us from the evil yet to come.

    Sometimes that can be a very painful lesson for us to learn.


  17. May 27, 2009 12:08 pm

    As a believer I should be the quickest to forgive, and get things right…walk humbly and not have to be right, yet it is one of the hardest things for me to do. Stupid enemy!

    But I’m learning, and walking as closely and as intentionally as I possibly can…and I know He will be faithful to begin the good work He has begun. I so want a group hug right now. 🙂

    Love you Tam.

    Laz, thank you for that…just came home from the hospital for a bite to eat. The whole family is here now and we’re just waiting on the Lord. She isn’t in any pain, just praying she will be here Saturday for our son’s wedding. We know now she will not be able to attend, but we’re hoping to bring the video home Saturday night and play it for her. Thank you for your prayers,

    • May 27, 2009 7:21 pm

      deb – love you too.

      we’re here if you need anything.

  18. May 27, 2009 6:54 pm

    Beautiful, tam. Heart-breaking and beautiful. I saw the Body being the Body in that post – so beautiful. Thank you!

    • May 27, 2009 7:21 pm

      annie – it is still so heartbreaking. i cant get holly off my mind. and those 4 kiddos. i just ache for them.

      the only good thing out of this is that scott and daylon ARE with the Lord right now….anxiously awaiting their family to arrive.

      and God is still in control.


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