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whats right?

July 19, 2009

im a cynic. i dont particularly like that about me. but i am. its why i think i would make a good consultant type person. id love to go into a company, observe them for a while, then sit with all the big wigs and tell them what theyre doing wrong. i would SO enjoy that job.

im just being honest πŸ˜€

its easy for me to see the negative. the things that need to be worked on. i have to make attempts, conscience efforts to see the good sometimes. that is something i work at daily. and i believe i have made great improvements. but there is still a long way to go.

sitting with friends sunday night the topic of life in america came up. how spoiled we are. how entitled we think we are. how as “christians” we’re missing so much.

it left me with a sour taste on my tongue.

so, i decided i wanted to focus on whats right in my world. in my little corner from my tiny perspective.

im beginning to see a community that is becoming aware of each other. i see it in my church as people go out and get involved in the lives around them. and im seeing it as im outside the walls of my church, talking with people that would never step inside a church building, who happens to know the same person i know that is struggling and wants to find a way we can team up to help them.

when times get tough…we draw on one another. we’re pulled together by circumstances. maybe not the best of circumstances, but i believe the outcome of it all will prove to have many benefits.

whats right in your world?

34 Comments leave one →
  1. July 20, 2009 12:00 am

    okay, first, your entire first paragraph…. I’m totally there. TOTALLY. and unfortunately. :-/ In fact, the minute I enter a room pretty much ANYWHERE (or a situation) I’m redoing it in my mind b/c I instantly see “problems.” It’s tiresome really. And annoying.

    What’s RIGHT in my world…. so not a good time in my life to ask me that question….which is probably a good thing b/c it is making me dig deeper. πŸ˜‰

    What’s right is that I have a husband I adore (for the most part LOL) and who I know adores me right back (for the most part LOL!). We were able to spend a lot of time with family this month. We have a home we love to go back to (in a week! 😯 ) Today I know God spoke a very important message to me through a few “issues” I have but wish I didn’t…. and it just reaffirmed for me that God redeems and brings good out of poor decisions. *ahem*

    And that’s all for now. πŸ˜‰

    • July 20, 2009 10:43 am

      yah. yesterdays message kicked my rear too. dang that pastor tom!

  2. July 20, 2009 1:12 am

    Ya know the old saying Ac-Cent-Tchu-Ate the Positive, Eliminate the negative?? Maybe it was a song…hmmm. Anyway, ya get the idea. That’s one of the toughest jobs on the planet, but one I’m working on.

    I used to search out blogs complaining about something, just so I could put my 2 cents worth of complaints in. Sometimes I would complain about their complaining.

    Not taking part in the negativity anymore and I know it has not only impacted me personally, but has made for a happier family. I don’t comment on as many blogs anymore cuz Mama said if I don’t have nuthin nice to say, SHUT IT! So, I keep my mouth (err fingers) quiet a lot….that’s a first for me too :-).

    • July 20, 2009 10:45 am

      i dont think i have ever heard, or read, you say a negative thing. i mean, you post your opinion. but ive never witnessed you being negative in a “just wanta be negative cuz i can, yo!” way.

      youre cool like that πŸ˜‰

  3. July 20, 2009 1:39 am

    At work, if someone catches me not smiling, they think the world is about to implode.

    And Mr Optimistic is a Mr Men character my staff made up for me once.

    I’m usually the complete opposite of what you, Bran & Toby have said about seeing the negative first. This is not always a helpful trait, but I’m happy with my place in the positivity club and I’m not complaining about it at all. πŸ™‚

    So…what’s right in my world … apart from the same things you’ve noted Tam (that gets me excited) is:
    1. My wife. She’s always right. And brilliant. And gorgeous.
    2. God’s plan for our lives, especially the bits we can’t see too clearly right now.
    3. Love.

    Yes, I know God is love (I wonder if our friend from Perth will have a field day with this point πŸ˜‰ and so I’m really giving Him 2 of my 3 points. But in actual fact I’ve given him all of them anyway. God is good…all the time.

    • July 20, 2009 10:47 am

      one day, im gonna meet you…and i already know im gonna love you and diane a ton o bunch more than i already do. the people you are on the web is simply infectious. i cant imagine how much more that is in person!

      love you guys…

  4. July 20, 2009 6:05 am

    i have a home and a cute white companion and amazing friends and a helpful sister and home nursing coming to watch over me and food on the table and ceiling fans to help the air move so i can breathe better and a computer to help keep me in touch when i’m able to type and a God who graces me every day.

    the pain is exhausting and scary, but what He surrounds me with in the midst of it is all good.

    • July 20, 2009 10:48 am

      and you have one of the most brilliant sense of humor of any person ive ever met! that coupled with your circumstances is remarkable sweet friend! you hold the rights on positive thinking. you should be instructing us all.

  5. July 20, 2009 6:14 am

    Love. The people I have the amazing privilege of loving and who for I have no reason as to explain why…who love me back. Dang. Seriously. Yup, that about explains it for me.

    Oh and side note, I like you. I mean a lot. I like your cynic side and I like it when you say it how it is. I like how you hold me accountable and I like you to speak truth into my life. I know we haven’t really delved. Delved? Is that a word? Okay, whatever, delved into that really deep, but I am starving for it and if you see crap in my life you are more then welcome to call me out on it. Kthanks.

    Yeah, whatever…I probably should have said this in email but I am at the stupid internet cafe so you can delete this if you want to. Or not. Whatever. Delved.

    • July 20, 2009 10:49 am

      accountability is so important. doesnt always feel good…but it is, usually, very beneficial. in fact…i need to email you later. dont let me forget. πŸ˜‰

      and “delved” IS a word. yay!!!

  6. July 20, 2009 6:45 am

    I often feel the same way. If I’m not ranting, I’m not living – ha!

    But it all honesty, so much IS right in my world.

    I have a husband who comes straight home from work each day.
    2 married parents who live just minutes away.
    A paycheck at the end of the week.
    An outlet here in blogger-ville.
    Lots of green green grass around me
    A naughty pup and a conniving cat
    A healthy body
    A good education
    A sense of humor
    Lots of good books
    and a Father who loves me more than I will ever even know.

  7. July 20, 2009 9:43 am

    I am also a cynic. and i do always look for what is wrong before i ever look for what is right and it is something that i am totally working on because what you focus on becomes bigger…

    there is alot of good things in my life right now if i take a step back and take inventory…I have a husband that loves and supports me through all the the drama, baggage and issues i bring into our relationship. I have amazing friends in Alabama as well as throughout the US that support me and play a vital role in my day to day life. right now i have an incredible mocah, an incredible coffee shop that reminds me of the PNW and free internet. and even if all of those things went away today i know that God is still on the throne and in control and i know that He loves me…period.

    Thank you for making me take a step back and look at the good.

    • July 20, 2009 10:51 am

      tell me…when you hear a family who is free with their bodily functions…does that also make you think of the PNW?

      sorry. had to. πŸ˜‰

  8. July 20, 2009 10:50 am

    I’m ever the optimist. One of the things I tend not to do is worry. At all. About anything. This drives some people around me batty, but that’s just who I am.

    Despite my ‘sunny’ outlook on things, I will still list some things that are right in my world:

    1. My family. My wife is fantastic. I love my kids so much. They spent the night at Grandma’s house last night and I admit that I didn’t like the silence. I even missed the bickering.

    2. I have a job that hasn’t been effected by the downturn in the economy. I have a good deal of friends in real estate and construction and its so hard watching them scramble to make ends meet sometimes. Not only do I have a good paying job, but God has blessed our family with extra income through my wife doing baby-sitting and my photography business taking hold.

    3. I have great friends and an excellent community of believers I interact with at church on a weekly basis.

    • July 20, 2009 10:56 am

      i know lots of optimists and i love being in their presence! it fascinates me πŸ˜€ ha!

      and although i can be a cynic, i usually always end up finding the good. especially if it can make me laugh.

      what do you do for a living?

      • July 20, 2009 11:35 am

        I am an IT Director for a third party logistics firm (defined here: ). Of course, I’d love to work in ministry full time or do photography full time. I guess if there is one thing I am cynical about it seems to be that – the chance to leave a career I only like (and I boss I don’t respect at all) and do something I truly love. I see the window of opportunity to do that slowly closing.

        • July 20, 2009 1:12 pm

          “I see the window of opportunity to do that slowly closing.” Stupid enemy, he’s an idiot…

          Our God says you can do ANYTHING through Him who strengthens you and provides for all of your needs…praying that that window flies open, the shutter breaks off and your life all that you dream it to be. I apologize if that is out of line, I just think if God gives you these desires and gifts, they are for a purpose and will bring Him glory. That’s how I will be praying for you. πŸ™‚

          • July 20, 2009 8:23 pm

            Not out of line at all. Thank you very much. I was just checking in before signing off for the night and read this.

            You made my day. πŸ™‚

  9. July 20, 2009 11:00 am

    I don’t mean to sound simple but everything is right when I’m right with the Lord. Every trial, illness, weakness, joy, situation, is right when i am right with Him. He allows it all, for my good and His glory, I trust Him completely, just can’t see it any other way… thanks for this Tam. πŸ™‚

    Your conversation you had sounds like one I have been having recently with another blogging friend…the thing that worries me the most about our being spoiled, is not that we are spoiled, but possibly unprepared should we need to defend our faith, our God, at a much more uncomfortable level than what we are used to.

    “when times get tough…we draw on one another.” Definitely…. πŸ™‚

    • July 20, 2009 11:14 am

      that is true. im sure the majority of us are ill prepared to answer for our faith, youre right. but probably moreso under pressure…


      looking forward to getting together this week.

  10. Jim2 permalink
    July 20, 2009 11:46 am

    The one I was born into, the one I married into, and just yesterday I was stunningly reminded of my church family and how “right” it can be. Our Pastor of 20 years passed away 21 months ago – the interim guy is an awesome Bible teacher and I have loved sitting under his preaching/teaching, but yesterday our “new” pastor preached at our church and it was a shock to me to see the difference in the congregation – all joined together and with one purpose. I’m not a crier, but I definitely teared up, it was so “right”.

    • July 20, 2009 11:59 am

      this got me all teared up too….that is wonderful, jim!

  11. July 20, 2009 12:35 pm

    I just got off the phone with my husband, who is finally back in the states. I haven’t heard his voice in eight days and suddenly – just like that – everything is right in my world again.

  12. pokinatcha permalink
    July 20, 2009 2:53 pm

    In my world is a husband, 7 kids & the beach!

    I’m with you on the negativity. I see the glass half-empty and I can be such a pessimist. My hubby is the opposite. Even with my kids I tend to focus on all their faults first. I’m trying to change all that, Lord knows I’m full of enough faults to outweigh everybody’s!

  13. Heidi permalink
    July 20, 2009 6:22 pm

    A constant God in my untamed world.

    My family
    My job

    Oh…. My ocean it speaks volumes.

  14. July 20, 2009 6:55 pm

    ha! I had a bad day…spent all day complaining in my mind about certain things I am not happy about. So after reading this post, I realize that what’s right is that I have the rest of my life to alter what is currently unsettling.

    I too am quite cynical at times…but that’s something I’d categorize as “what’s right;” in that, it allows me to pursue truth rather than accepting generic imitations at face value.

  15. July 20, 2009 7:53 pm

    What’s right is our time together. Coming home to amazing kids and a relaxing evening. Going errand running with you. Love it all!

  16. July 22, 2009 6:46 pm

    Ok, I didn’t make it past the first paragraph. ME TOO!!! I have thought that same thing SO many times. πŸ™‚ HAHAH.. Ok, I’ll read the rest of the post.

  17. July 22, 2009 6:48 pm

    haha – good for you! what’s right in the world? Um … in mine … wow. Tough spot right now. Um. My husband’s willingness to work on our marriage. God’s over-abundant care of me. My friend’s unceasing ministry to me. The support of those in the Body. Yeah, there’s a lot to be thankful for.

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