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sex. i talked about it. with a stranger.

January 19, 2010

remember several weeks back i told you brent and i were doing a sex video? yah-uh-huh. a total stranger, and his wife, were coming into our home to film us talking about sex. in our room. on our bed.


well….it all turned out great! really. unfortunately…in the midst of the holidays, company, being stupid-sick and moving – i forgot to share with you the finished product.

so….here you go!

13 Comments leave one →
  1. January 19, 2010 11:24 pm

    can i repost this on my FB? =] is that okay?

  2. Nathan permalink
    January 19, 2010 11:50 pm

    That is great, I wonder about those types of things sometimes. Like most, I feel as though it’s taboo to talk about, and what happens in bed stays in bed. It’s almost as if it’s a sacred thing that is never allowed to be touched or talked about. ever. Thanks, Tam and Brent! 🙂

    • January 20, 2010 4:19 pm

      seriously…the typos…didnt see’em tell people started pointing them out. i’ll talk to craig about it.

      anyways…youre right, it is primarily a taboo subject. i just wonder how much would be too much for people to talk about it. what would people, in general, be comfortable with?

  3. January 20, 2010 6:57 am

    Hmmm, interesting… I like it. It was a little like watching my mom and dad, but whatever. 😉

    Seriously though, I think it’s great that you guys were an example of how you can openly talk about it. JUST last night, here at my house, for about 2+ hours, my super ultra conservative friend across the street was over for a movie. Instead of watching a movie we talked about SEX and how it affects our marriages, what we aren’t getting out of it, how to get what we need (yes, we have them) out of it with our husbands, how to maybe step it up a notch for them (they like to be pursued!), and what is actually OKAY to do together as a married couple. She grapples with a lot of taboo things she grew up learning in a very prude and conservative home. Not that it was bad, it just wasn’t talked about. I grew up learning how to keep a boyfriend by what I could do or let him do. We each have different issues that hold us back, but we both need to know and understand that Christians can have great sex too! 😆 (I just realized Brent might be reading 😯 ha!)

    I heard a kid once (yes a kid, I think he turned 18 the day before he got married 😆 ) saying to his friend at a wedding just after he had returned from his honeymoon that sex is one thing that can either be a sin or a blessing. A sin before you’re married or out of the context that God created for us. A blessing after you’re married, totally okay to do, even encouraged by God himself. It seems like a fine line sometimes, but really it’s not. Unfortunately when you cross that line or go out of the bounds of marriage, it creates SUCH negative feelings and ruins what God designed…. I think that is where peoples big sex issues come up. That and being raised in a home where sex is bad and you’re a huge disappointment if you have it, never addressing the fact that within marriage it can be awesome.

    So, with that all said….. I like the video! haha!

    • January 20, 2010 4:20 pm

      that is crazy about your neighbor! honestly, i had to laugh a little when i read that part cuz thinking of you, how dang open you are about everything, and that poor girl…whoa! 🙂

      • January 20, 2010 4:40 pm

        I know, it was hilarious. SHe said she hadn’t laughed that hard in forever! haha! She’s open one on one, and then blushes about it. haha!

  4. January 20, 2010 10:48 am

    all i saw were:

    1. your name spelled with THREE “m’s” during the video
    2. your link at the bottom of the post says “inProcess” — who is that?
    3. the kleenex box about to fall between your bed and bedside table


    • January 20, 2010 4:20 pm

      i know. i know.

      look…i didnt put the vid together!

  5. January 20, 2010 1:18 pm

    Jenni, thank you thank you thank you for being the one to point that out. I didn’t want to. hahaha! 😯 I thought about sending her an email about it instead. ha!

  6. Heidi permalink
    January 20, 2010 8:15 pm

    I simply just love you…

  7. ckroboth permalink
    January 21, 2010 5:12 am

    Look up the Song of Solomon conference. WOW.. Talk about Eye opening about Sex in marriage. There is some hot stuff going on in the book of Song of Solomon.

    Peace and Love

  8. January 26, 2010 5:05 pm

    loved getting to see you two. and love your willingness (and courage) to break the silence in the Church.

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