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January 28, 2010

these abortion posts were motivated by a passion deep within me for every woman who has ever chosen this route. a passion that comes from personal experiences. i know so well every single thought and emotion that a girl goes through when facing this procedure and the hours, days, weeks, months and years that follow.

i knew, that i knew, that i knew, i had made a very poor decision. and still, i made it a second time.

i knew better.

we dont need to tell women who’ve had abortions that theyve done something wrong. no one told me i did anything wrong. but i knew, deep down, it wasnt right. all on my own – all alone with my private thoughts…i knew. and years later, when i would choose the Lord, that instinct i had about those abortions were confirmed.

the Holy Spirit convicts. it is not our job to convict another – it is the Spirits job and he did well. it wasnt a load of guilt. no, not from the Lord…i was heaping that on quite well all by myself. but it was a sweet and gentle conviction. not from man – from God. when i finally got to the place of realizing that He did, indeed, forgive me and that He had been gently loving me through this healing process, it all became much clearer.

i had not forgiven myself.

i was in that unforgiving place before and after i came to the Lord. i say this…because no one can tell me that my views on abortion are based solely on my faith and belief in God.

no one else around me knew about the abortions after i left california and later when i married brent. i walked through it alone. but had i let people know sooner, i would hope they would’ve extended grace, love and acceptance.

so know, friends…when you showed all your support for these posts this week on your blog, facebook, twitter, word of mouth…you didnt only support me – you supported every single woman who has ever had an abortion. and you quite possibly may have had a hand in preventing a future one. you did that out of a showing of love and compassion. not by throwing bricks of condemnation, judgment or guilt – you extended love and grace.

i am so incredibly overwhelmed with gratitude for each of you right now. i am honored to call you friends. you are good people.

thank you. sincerely…thank you.

16 Comments leave one →
  1. TheNorEaster permalink
    January 28, 2010 11:05 pm

    I have two things to say that cannot be said enough:

    The first:

  2. TheNorEaster permalink
    January 28, 2010 11:09 pm

    And the voice of autumn:

  3. January 28, 2010 11:29 pm

    Thank YOU. Love you so much.

  4. January 29, 2010 1:00 am

    and thank you for being willing to write about it…I’ve been blessed by your posts!

  5. January 29, 2010 4:49 am

    It’s one heckuva ride…..glad to be on it with ya!!

    Thank YOU!

  6. January 29, 2010 6:52 am

    Thank you for sharing this week and putting yourself in a vulnerable position with a bunch of strangers. Our God heals and restores. I’ll be praying that He continues to do that in you (and others) as the enemy is quick to bring up past sins.

  7. January 29, 2010 7:43 am

    – you extended love and grace.

    Sounds like something absurd… Thanks Tam.

  8. Heidi permalink
    January 29, 2010 8:16 am

    I love you Tam..

    My life wouldn’t be complete without you… (ALL of YOU)

    You’ve spurred hope in me this week.. to be bold, honest, and accept grace.

    Love you sis!

  9. January 29, 2010 9:06 am

    i’m not really sure that i’m in the group that is being thanked, but i will say that i’m about 90% sure that all of the people who have read your posts this week are thank you as much as…no, more than you’re thanking them.

  10. January 29, 2010 10:36 am

    thank you for sharing your heart.

    im sure your post will resonate to a lot of women out there.

    thanks for showing them that we serve a God of 2nd chances.

  11. January 29, 2010 1:20 pm

    Thank you for sharing my friend. Love you.

  12. January 29, 2010 6:58 pm

    You are simply beautiful. And loved. Thank you.

  13. Nicole Wick permalink
    January 29, 2010 7:11 pm

    Love you. Seriously. Like a lot.

  14. Laura permalink
    January 29, 2010 9:02 pm

    We are the lucky ones!!! Thank you for sharing some of you with us!!!

  15. Linda permalink
    January 30, 2010 10:16 am

    I’m so impressed with your transparency, honesty & writing skills. God has gifted you with an ability to reach out to others; I will pray that the right opportunities are placed before you. You will make a difference. You are amazing. God bless.

  16. February 1, 2010 10:22 am

    Hello there, my friend. I have not been on the blogosphere for awhile. I so admire you and your heart … the tenacity you have for being authentic and making a difference in people’s lives. I know your story will touch many hearts–how could it not? May you be blessed with strength for the journey, and joy along the way. I love you.

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